When asking a question, it is important to consider just how receptive you are to the answer.
People consider themselves receptive but are often far from it.
If you were to ask: “How old are you?” you might expect a numerical value in response. “Older than a bird but younger than a mountain” may not be the answer you had in mind. It tells you something but lacks the familiar specificity.
So when the answer is not what you want to hear, what does that tell you? Are you asking the wrong question? Do you have an expectation in mind?