The more acutely you listen to the situation and pay attention to what is taking place, the more appropriate your response will be.
Your aim is to respond harmoniously and effectively.
Ideally, with maximum benefit to both parties.

The main impediment is the conscious mind's limited ability to process information as it is happening.
Our conscious mind analyses data after the event, not during the event.

It is far better to rely upon the subconscious mind; as this will produce a more thorough, comprehensive picture of what is occurring.